It’s a spectrum. For example you’re friends who wish they weren’t asexual are valid and are asexual. I do not feel the same way.

I have the ability I don’t have the desire. I actually have children. I’ve also had girlfriends suggest various things like maybe I have low testosterone. Never got checked for low t. It’s not something I’m really interested in fixing. I’d compare it to wanting crack cocaine. You don’t want it now, maybe there is a way to make you want it… Why tho? Seems like an extra complication to life. As for relationships: the ones I’ve had haven’t been great. The ones my friends have don’t seem all that great either.

I’m good. I’ve got my books and no desire for anything more . What is there to fix? Why should I fix it if I’m already fine? Why should I make myself want more than I already have if I’m already happy? You normal people don’t seem all that happy with it, why would I want it? I’m good .

How much time do you spend trying to get sex or a relationship? How much time would you save if you… Didn’t… And you didn’t want it? Why would you want to want something so time consuming.

Edit: what i mean is from my view point people are basically asking “why don’t you try to create this void in your soul then Spend your entire life working on filling it… Mostly unsuccessfully, and failed attempts will be very very painful, but one day you MIGHT fill the void and you’ll be happy because that void is now filled!”

Why the fuck would I want that. It sounds awful. You guys go right ahead tho. I’m not judging. I’m just say “nah man I’m good”