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  • Gaywallet (they/it)@beehaw.org
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    1 year ago

    I won’t defend all of these people because I’m not aware of everything they’ve said.

    Your comment seemed rather like a defense, yet now you’re saying you’re not aware of what they’ve said? Why did you come in here trying to defend them?

    I see that you’re trying to make a point about language, but it really doesn’t help for you to be defending these people while you make it.

    at the same time if they want to be more widely accepted they need more clear messaging and they need to accept that people don’t understand even the most basic principles of what makes someone trans.

    This sounds dangerously close to tone policing

    You can’t just shut people out and shout them down when they don’t know what you’re talking about because then they will discard your entire position wholesale.

    I mean, maybe they aren’t trying to reach the people they’re shouting at? It’s kind of hard to be civil to the very people who are quite literally threatening your life. I also think it’s kind of fucked up to be telling trans people that they need to convince others of their humanity? Why are we putting such a burden on the people who are being marginalized by society?

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      It wasn’t a defense because I can’t tell you from what place these people were coming from or how much or little they thought through their statements and how much they do or don’t understand about being trans. It’s worth exploring where these people are coming from if you want to change the publics perception of Trans people. You accusing me of being in defense of transphobia is exactly what I’m talking about. Many of these people were lamenting the sudden new wave of political correctness that they didn’t understand. Telling them to shut up doesn’t get them on your side. “You get more flies with honey.”

      Trans people are fighting against a multi-billion dollar advertising campaign against them. They’re simply a convenient Boogeyman for the far right. It’s a very niche to be trans, so unfortunately, advocating for yourself comes with the territory just like any other minority group that has fought to be more widely accepted.

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        You accusing me of being in defense of transphobia

        You entered this thread to say “it’s not transphobia” and that it was just “shifting language”. This was in response to someone who said it was transphobia. Furthermore when called out on this, you then said you’re not aware of what they said. How am I supposed to interpret this as anything but a defense?

        Telling them to shut up doesn’t get them on your side.

        I apologize if it ever came off that way, but my intent was not to tell you to be quiet. My intent was to ask you questions about your stance.

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          I said I’m not aware of everything that was said by each of these individuals, I did read the article which does tell critics to shut up and lacks direct quotes to each incident.

          As far as I’m aware, transphobia has a very specific meaning. It gets used very loosely as “those who disagree” or those who don’t understand what we’re talking about.
          Conservatives want activists to push regular people away. When you do that, then you become isolated. Unfortunately, you’re stuck playing their game.

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            It’s not always about playing their game or saying what will appeal to them. We are especially a safe space for minorities, including trans people, and it’s not particularly welcoming when you defend people called out for transphobia. If you want to discuss the merits of having discussions with people who need to learn that’s an entirely different conversation.

            It probably isn’t your intent, but it really seems like you’re repeatedly trying to drive home the point that trans people are unreasonable and it’s not particularly appreciated by myself or others on this instance. I’m going to have to ask you to stop this line of reasoning and avoid discussing it on this instance in the future.