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Cake day: May 18th, 2024

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  • Do you have any fleeing the country tips and tricks for beginners? Fully understand not discussing anything like that, but it is something I’d like to plan for but don’t know how. Thank you for the improved vocabulary, I come from a family that sees trans in a negative light, so I’m really just expanding my ability to describe my experiences in nonbiased ways.


  • Thank you for taking the time to respond! I really appreciate any advice and opinions I can get from trans people who have more experience being themselves.

    Your language implies that you don’t think that a transition is valid without some high-tech medical/pharmaceutical intervention.

    I do realize that I have some internalized transphobia, and that’s something I’m working through in therapy. I don’t think that people can’t be trans without HRT, but in the back of my head perhaps more that I cannot. This is something I’m trying to address before I make any real life-altering decisions - I’m really just looking to store my sperm for right now to prepare for any potential fertility issues in the future. As for HRT, I’ve been considering it for a while now, almost as long as the timescale I illustrated. The risks do intimidate me a bit, but I’m in the stages of consulting with doctors for the first time as to those potential risks for me personally. I feel like what I gained from my realization is that I really wasted a lot of time not being myself (though there were external factors at play), and the rest is just a jumble of thoughts that have been going through my head. I don’t know that you’d necessarily want to, because it seems like you have your worries too; but, to put it bluntly, it fucking sucks that you don’t at least have the option of HRT, and I must apologize as I do not intend to demean your struggle with my spur of the moment thoughts working out my bullshit in therapy.

    I for one would love it if more of the trans community embraced reviving these traditional transition methods. I often feel very alone trying to explore alternative options because all of the other trans people jump straight to the drugs.

    I would be super appreciative if you could share any resources you have! I’ve been wanting to look into HRT alternatives, but it’s hard to tell what works and what’s hokey.

    The major problem with HRT is that once you’re on it, you need it or else you’ll get bone issues and premature menopause. Unstable political landscapes mean that the health of many trans people can be seriously impacted by laws changing access to drugs.

    I felt that I was pretty clear that the current political landscape was one of my main concerns with starting HRT. The dependency on any system really is a terrifying thing at its core. I don’t need HRT right now, I’m starting to socially transition as much as I can. Part of why I’ve even continued on this journey despite my fear in the first place is that I think now is the time to be out more than ever. The thought of a total anti-trans political regime is scary, but I think I’d feel safer in terms of starting HRT later this year or early next year if we get the more progressive candidate. Part of me thinks that socially out or medically out, you’re a bit fucked if Trump gets elected anyway as well, but I am waiting specifically to see a bit more how this plays out.






  • Quite a few, I’m one of those people. In fact, I could answer this question in so many different ways. The game I feel is the “prize” of my collection, though, is Leisure Suit Larry: Magna Cum Laude.

    I like the classic point and click Leisure Suit Larry games; I think they have a certain charm about them, and though they’re drenched in sleaze, Larry in his quests for sex more often than not ends up the butt of the joke. Raunchy, sexual, but most importantly, mainly making fun of our protagonist desperately trying to get laid. The gameplay was fun too, point and click games have a certain feel that you don’t see too much today. On top of all that, when the series moved into a more higher resolution art for LSL 4, 6 and 7 the series genuinely beautiful with an unforgettable style

    LSL: MCL does not have much of this. You play truly horribly designed minigames over and over to progress. These range from bad to worse, and you will become the best virtual quarters player of all time by the end of it, I promise you. The comedy is reduced to 2000s boner comedy level, and it seems as though Larry (or Larry’s nephew, Larry, in this case) is an unironic protagonist on a real quest, rather than failing upwards, accompanied by the constant mockery of our witty narrator. What once was a series about a hopeless sleazeball constantly petitioning and getting rejected by women out of his league got turned into a unironic college boning simulator. To top it all off, our beautiful art has been replaced by the early-2000s-est of 3D models and textures

    I played it for 22 hours or so. Couldn’t stop. It’s like a car crash. Not only does it If any game deserves “so bad, it’s good” status, LSL: MCL is at the top of the list.

    For those kind enough to read my rant, here are some runners up from my shelf in which I assume you’d also be interested:

    BCFX The Black College Football Experience: A college football game where only Historically Black Colleges and Universities are selectable. Only part of the game is really about football, because you also play as the band at halftime in a Rock Band-style minigame. It’s such a niche game, with such a niche audience. Who probably won’t even like the game because it doesn’t play well at all.

    Sneak King: C’mon, we all know this one. Premium, refined jank.

    Fight Club: A fighting game based on the movie based on the book, where you can play as Fred Durst from Limp Bizkit and also Abraham Lincoln should you so desire.

    MTV’s Pimp My Ride: PBG fans out there, time to represent. Basically just a minigame collection with some driving between. It did, however, teach me how to Ghost Ride the Whip, for which I am eternally grateful.


  • Are you out to these people? I don’t know how long you’ve been on HRT, or at what age you started, but if you’ve been on HRT a bit there have to have been some changes.

    It can be hard for people to notice differences, unless you point them out, and if you’re boymoding then people (not to be too assumptive, but I’m guessing your male friends?) probably won’t pick up on any feminine energy you’re radiating ;).

    As for their comments about your weight, I’m so sorry that you have to hear that because it can be so discouraging during tough points in your life. That said, keeping with the assumption thess friends are men, keep in mind that a lot of male socialization revolves around the concept of the “burn,” and they might not be intending to be as hurtful as they are.

    Taking my experiences coming out as bisexual (and trans, to some people) into consideration, I believe that people can’t surprise you unless you give them a chance. Some will be as you expected, but you will always be surprised.

    I hope your experience gets better soon, much love <3