“Narcissistic behaviour” is an ableist dogwhistle. We don’t talk about enabling deaf behaviour, or autistic behaviour, because those are disabilities we treat with a modicum more respect.

Infantilising mental disabilities is a dick move.

If you’re not a psychiatrist, then you don’t have the training needed to diagnose someone with a mental disability. I don’t care whether your parents actually have NPD or not, but the risk of armchair diagnosing someone is that you’ll just amplify stereotypes. You diagnose them because they meet a stereotype, and then you study their behaviour and reach the conclusion that narcisstists act like the stereotype, and then you spread your conclusion. It’s citogenesis.

Also “narc” when used to say someone has NPD is straight up a slur.

No, I have NPD and we’re called narcs sometimes. It’s often used in the community as a shorthand, but generally if it comes from a neurotypical it’s a slur. I’m aware of the other meaning of the word and I don’t have a problem with it, but I tend not to use it because it just reminds me of the homonym which is actually offensive.

I’m not an ecofascist, I’m not saying the human species, in terms of DNA and biology doesn’t deserve to exist. It’s the social construct of humanity and the culture. We need an otherkin revolution. We need people acting less like humans.

Rules only exist if people choose to follow them.

Well, no. People aren’t perfectly rational agents who always make correct decisions. They don’t always know what the mods and admins are doing, and they can be biased. People join instances because of the vibes, most people don’t even read the rules in the first place. And those who do have no guarantee the rules they read are the ones actually enforced, which is my core complaint here

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I don’t have a planned out solution, but maybe one way to do it is to build in separation of the legislative and executive branches. Make two classes of moderator: rules writers and rules enforcers