looking at your pics, i am unable to even imagine you as anything other than a cute girl ✨🎀✨

and i’m completely serious about my envy 🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥

OMG WTF!!!

HOW are you this GORGEOUS?!?

that figure! the long thick flowing hair! those legs! and then the dress, bow, and socks to show it all off!!

my envy burns 🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥

(seriously wtf, you are ✨gorgeous✨)

Hi 😊 Apparently DMs between Lemmy and Kbin/Mbin still do not work, so I can only see DMs from other Kbin/Mbin users.

I’ve sent you a DM from my Lemmy account.

Sending love and support to you and everyone stuck in Florida ❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️

Hiya. It’s kinda hard for me to pulll away from Matrix and the friends that I’ve made there, and I’ve not been good about remembering to come back here to the fediverse. I really created this thread looking specifically for people to meet offline. If you’re looking for more offine friends, you might want to join us on Matrix.

Also, thank you for saying my name 😊 It feels so nice to see.

I appreciate the advice, but I would sooner harm myself than go back to facebook (sorry if that’s too dark). If my choices in life are between being surrounded by friends while all interactions are monitored closely by facebook, or being forever alone and disallowed from human experiences, then there’s really nothing here for me anymore. I hope it doesn’t come to that.

I do advise keeping an eye open for opportunities elsewhere.

I have been wanted to evacuate soon, but my heart is pulling me in lots of different directions, and I don’t really know which path to follow.

In the meantime, you’re not going to be a fan of this advice, but discord is a good place to find communities.

Yeah, that’s what my friend Lacey was telling me. I just can’t do that right now. Making these posts is difficult enough.

Thank you for the well wishes.

Unless you have fuck loads of cash I’d say settle in for the long haul and cope,

😢

unless you’re like some boomer with a house?

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I take it you’re in the US?

yeah, in the deep south 😢

Is there insurance that covers it maybe?

😢

Laser, you mean on face or genitalia?

everywhere. i’m pretty much done with face now and have been focusing on genital region. i’ll be doing electro of remaining light facial hairs soon.

i’ve learned some good info from this thread, that laser isn’t technically necessary, that electro is also not technicaly necessary, and idk. i’ve already paid for several sessions, so i’m gonna get 'em done and take it from there.

i wish this were easier. i wish that i could just push the button. i wish it didn’t have to be this way.

thank you for your reply ❤️

My surgeon did electro as part of the operation and I have had no problems over a year out with hair.

Wow, I had no idea this was even possible. I’m learning quite a lot recently.

what surgical technique interests you

I think you’ve already seen my messages about that in one of the Matrix chat rooms. If not, I can elaborate here or there.

how you’re paying

I usually pay for things using cash that I withdraw from my checking/savings.

if you have insurance coverage

I currently have Medicare coverage.

how far you’re willing to travel

If I need to flee the country, I’ll do it.

what your cost limits are

I’m willing to empty my savings and, if necessary, sell access to my body. I need the surgery.

what you think about each individual surgeon

What I think I really need is to actually talk to one or more surgeons in-person so that I can know what to expect, and as I said before, I really don’t wanna be on a waiting list for more than a year. That and the cost are the main reasons I’m considering evacuating to the west coast.

I’m hoping that I can get letters from my GP (who prescribes my HRT) and my Psychiatrist (who knows I’m only interested in the letter), and I figure that the letters do not expire and can be taken out of state if I evacuate. Is this correct?

Thank you for all of the help to start me off in my research. ❤️

If you have insurance now, it might cover bottom surgery.

I currently have Medicare, so it looks like I am covered. 😊

You’ll likely need two letters of support in order to receive coverage: one from your hrt provider and one from a mental health provider.

Well I do currently have a GP that prescribes my HRT and should be able to write me a letter, and I have a Psychiatrist who knows that the only reason I’m talking to him is to get the letter. So maybe I’m all set and don’t need to rope a third person into this to get consent to alter my own body? (I cannot begin to articulate the level of rage that I feel about my lack of bodily autonmy)

and you get the insurance immediately after moving if you are low income

I would guess that I’d need to actually have a residence there right? So like, if I can manage to rent a room, I’m good, but if I can’t find a stable living situation it wouldn’t count as having moved there?

I currently have Medicare, so I think everything should be covered if I can just manage to secure a residence.

damn, two therapists? this gate-keeping of healthcare is really exhausting and frustrating. exhaustingly frustrating. frustratingly exhausting. grrrrrrrrrrrrrr

yeah i’ve been doing the laser first just like you said. my doctor that prescribes my hrt is the one who does the laser, and she said i may need the electrolysis after laser is done. well at least for the remaining light-colored hairs. buy yeah, i can kinda work myself into mild panic and stress out enough to doubt myself. like a lot. lol

omg that is so good to know! thank you thank you! that is like the missing puzzle piece that actually calmed my mind about it. i should still get a therapist tho.

A small amount of hairs will always grow back.

Yeah, that’s what I was saying on matrix is what concerns me. Like, I’m thinking I just want the most permanent removal possible. I’m such a perfectionist, and it causes bad thoughts to consider flaws and stuff. I really need to find a surgeon and go over this stuff. Also a therapist would probably help a lot right now…

I’m not sure where you are

I’m in southeast Louisiana. I’ve been doing laser for my whole body since I started HRT, but I’ve only done three sessions on my…delicate region. I’m just concerned about the permanence of laser and the wait for surgery. One of the reasons I’m considering evacuating to a safe state on the west coast is that I could hopefully have the surgery covered by my insurrance.

Was 4 months for the consultation and almost a year for the surgery.

I’ve heard some people suggesting that some surgeons have a wait list of three to five years, and I absolutely cannot wait that long. One year is already long enough to consider.

Thank you for your comment ❤️

If my doctor and/or psychiatrist make me wait like that, I don’t know what I’ll do. I feel trapped here in this red state. And the way things are going in the US right now… it’s troubling. But one way or another, I’m getting that surgery.

Thank you very much for the information!

I’m still pre-op, doing laser, and procrastinating on investigating surgeons in blue cities. My doctor had said that some people take it forever, and some only temporarily. So that’s why I was curious about your perspective, as someone who is basically where I want to be.

You doctor’s hesitancy is concerning. I hate this overall trend of gatekeeping health care, like the current mess in the UK. That PhilosophyTube video about trans healthcare in the UK was an eye-opener for me as to how seriously toxic the healthcare system there had gotten.

And as far as the slight increase in chance of breast cancer (matching cisgender women), I had told my doctor from the start that I’d prefer breast cancer than ending things myself. Worst case, I die while transitioning and am at least able to feel joy in my final days. As a child, I never thought I would live past 30, but now I actually feel joy and a desire to keep going.

Thank you again for sharing some personal information with me ❤️

Interesting. I am also prescribed progesterone (capsules), and I didn’t really get any push-back. When I started HRT, my doctor had said that we could consider it once she had gotten my estrogen levels where I wanted them, which she had said would be after about a year.

Well a year on HRT later, and blood-work showed my estrogen levels were within the lower range for women. So I asked her to increase my dose one more time and prescribe progesterone, and she did without hesitation, after explaining it a bit.

I’m really lucky to have such a great doctor. I’m in a deep red state, and it takes an hour to get to my doctor appointments in the nearest blue city. I guess I’m also lucky that it’s only an hour each way.

I have two somewhat personal questions for you, if that’s okay:

• Do you intend to take progesterone for life, or are you expecting to stop taking it at some point?

• Do you take it everyday?

I currently take it each night, but only for the first half of the month each month.

Thanks for reading 😊️

I get the suspicion that some of the more spirited discussions so far came with a tinge of suspicion that I’m one of the bad folks looking to invade spaces and sow discord,

Yeah, we generally have to have our guard up, especially in these types of threads. I don’t know if you’re familiar with the “just asking questions” type of transphobe, but it is a very real problem for communities like this one. The topic or phrasing of a question can raise red-flags for sure.

But I believe that you’re being sincere.