• mikeboltonshair@sh.itjust.works
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    1 year ago

    Yeah you are right I’m not immune to our biological hardwiring it’s not a me being tough thing however, not everyone is equally affected by it.

    I don’t have social media as I don’t see value in it, also if my comments get downvoted to shit or upvoted I don’t really care because these things aren’t real life to me

    Even in real life if someone praises me for doing a good job it’s a nice thing to do for sure but I don’t actually care about getting praise especially from strangers, if it’s someone I know then sure

    • Stoneykins [any]@mander.xyz
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      1 year ago

      Sure, everyone is variable and your personal experience is valid. It isn’t very different from mine, tbh (also lemmy is social media so…)

      I just took exception to the “(people are motivated by upvotes) …only if they have no self esteem and need validation from strangers” part. Many people are motivated by upvotes, but there isn’t anything necessarily wrong with that, and it certainly doesn’t mean they have low self esteem or anything. It just felt rude.