much time as a job, for sure, and probably more. But if you consider it work to bring them to and watch them at a football / soccer match on the weekend that you should be reimbursed for by the public, you maybe shouldn’t have kids to begin with.

It’s not about being reimbursed for it by the public; it’s that this sort of thing can simply be incompatible with a full-time job if you have more than one or two kids, and in modern Western society it’s very hard for the average household to live on one income. That’s the crux of the issue here; it doesn’t matter why you want to have kids if it’s unfeasible to have kids.