Do you also have image upload issues sometimes? I have posted a screenshot of how it looks when it fails. It is a known bug -> https://github.com/LemmyNet/lemmy-ui/issues/1489
Do you maybe know how to get around it, and still be able to upload the image?
I also prefer hosting externally and only linking the image directly in posts, avoids having the instance store additional files and has been pretty reliable and fast to me. I’d say something like catbox.moe or postimg.cc are good starting points – from a general user perspective.
I also had an annoying experience where an instance purged their images and it resulted in me having to go back to my posts to update their files, since then I’m a firm believer in using external links instead, and this is never an issue in those cases.