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„Here’s the ten bucks you let me borrow, sorry it took so long, I hope you aren’t angry at me“
I gave this person money?
hey free money, nice
You just reminded me of how some years ago I found my wallet that I totally forgot about behind my bed because it fell in there. The joy is real.
Finding old christmas cards you never took the money out of is the best
Sometimes I leave money in glove boxes, cupboards, and whatnot as a surprise to my future self.
The other day at work, a coworker was like “I owe you for lunch anyway” when we were putting in an order and I had no idea what he meant till he reminded me like 6 months ago i gave him an old NES that needed some work with the promise of a lunch at some point.
You mean you don’t hyper fixate on a few uncomfortable moments from your past and hold grudges based on those?
I barely remember my own life so I indeed don’t hold grudges because I have no idea why I held them or if it was actually my fault that something happened.
I do this often, so not sure every ADHD symptom is common to everyone.
I mean, i do that too, but it’s always something i did rather than something others did to me.
When others are shitty to me, it usually doesn’t stick with me for long, because although bad at the moment, it wasn’t my fault, so i’m guilt free.
I like to turn the grudge inward. Me am my nemesis, bane to others and self
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I only hold one single grudge in my life. The one fucker in high-school who took the accountant role when my mother died of cancer, took the money my class raised for my family, and spent them on luxury stuff for himself.
Seriously. I don’t have the energy to keep track of that shit. If somebody was shitty to me they just get labeled as “not friend” and get treated like an acquaintance. Anything more requires me to care about them in some way, and I have shit to do.
It bothers me to an absurdely strong degree that random words are capitalized.
Not random. They are capitalizing words for emphasis, similarly to if they said it as big of me or hold grudges — using title case like that also makes it seem like it’s a sort of monolithic idea worthy of a formal noun, like Always remember to Brush Your Teeth!
Even then…those are weird parts of the sentence to emphasize.
I was featured in a story told by someone at a funeral regarding some disagreement/fight I and the deceased had.
Don’t remember it at all, nothing about it even rang a bell.
Mine is a fun sort of specific. Years later, I’ll remember that I hate a person’s guts but will completely forget why I hate them. But that visceral hate stays with me.
I recently had a conversation with my ex-fiancée of 15 years and she was apologizing for things I didn’t even remember her doing. But I remember the bitterness from those things.
Wait, bad memory is a sign of ADHD?
As someone with adhd let me also tell you one of my favorite internet quotes of all time:
Every pees too but if you’re peeing 60 times a day that’s when you see a doctor
I mean that’s a lot of things and also can be normal. Don’t tik tok yourself a diagnosis considering even different psychs will come up with different conclusions. I’m dealing with that now trying to get a diagnosis one says def adhd the other thinks bipolar… another depression. They just pick something. There’s like no science behind psychology I swear.
When you have OCD and ADHD so you hold onto the grudge because what if you forget???
I tend not to hold grudges because I don’t see the point of holding anger. If someone wrongs me I might increase the distance between us socially or not trust them with certain things if I feel it would be unwise to continue. Sometimes there needs to be some kind of reconciliation for things to be close again. I’ve definitely stopped being friends with people for reasons that were unlikely to change or where it wasn’t worth continuing, but it’s very hard for me to stay mad at them or wish them ill. Even the people who’ve done awful things to me or who are now contemptible in many respects, I just kind of hope they do better in the future, far away from me.
I’ve never considered this to have anything to do with my adhd, but maybe? It would definitely be something more complicated than just forgetting though.
