Insight: is it realistic to anyone in observed real life that people more desire to find a romantic partner as they less/really don’t enjoy life overall? So, will a person be prone to chasing a lovelife when he doesn’t live well and happily?
Furthermore, Unsatisfied life has a negative effect to relationship building and further even marriage and family too (I’ve read articles and heard memoirs and watched entertainment variously many times, and so I agree. Maybe with diligence, I’ll put such article references asap.) So how could a person achieve/suceed lovelife if he’s already (in the beginning) unsatisfied with every other aspect of his life wholly while his any latter relationship may apparently fail upon his unsatisfied life? A contradiction or paradox? He might end up into hopeless romantic or just pathetically miserable man/spouse (hopefully not).
Out of topic: I wish there were a (sister) community of meirl, a discussion and seriousness of focusing and analyzing the real life (opposite of meirl community sharing of memes, pics and short texts).
I was single for most of my life, getting married in my mid 30s. There were times when I really wanted a partner and times when it didn’t matter so much. When I was happy in my job and had a good social life, I looked at having a partner as sprinkles on a delicious sundae. It might make it better, but I was perfectly fine without it. Once I was married, we had the same perspective about kids. It would be nice, but our happiness was not dependent on it.