• zarkanian@sh.itjust.works
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    7 months ago

    Yet I read other thread were women bitched and men acknowledge that we just miss signs when they interested. Its a no win situation.

    People who can’t communicate probably wouldn’t make good partners in the first place.

    • daltotron@lemmy.world
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      7 months ago

      I’ve seen this before in the thread, and I kind of wonder about it. I don’t think that like, an inability to communicate, or, realistically, in inability for communication to take place (which could be due to either person), is necessarily an indication that a relationship is impossible or undesirable. There’s more to people that just sort of, their surface level ability to communicate with one another, or show outward signals. Personality compatibility, shared interests, sexual attraction, even. Certainly, I’d say it’s pretty important, that people are able to communicate with each other, but I also don’t think it’s unreasonable to expect that, as two people naturally spend time together, they’ll probably get better at communication. Especially if they’re actually capable of recognizing that they’re not effectively communicating. What are two people doing, spending time together constantly, if they’re not in some kind of relationship already, you know?

      So I dunno, it’s one kind of, cause and effect, that’s mixed into the pot of many, but I think it’s maybe a mistake to prioritize it so highly, before any other considerations.